{"id":83,"date":"2018-07-22T15:47:36","date_gmt":"2018-07-22T19:47:36","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/fontashia.com\/?p=83"},"modified":"2018-07-22T15:47:36","modified_gmt":"2018-07-22T19:47:36","slug":"dark-skin-love-the-skin-you-are-in","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/financialacts.org\/index.php\/2018\/07\/22\/dark-skin-love-the-skin-you-are-in\/","title":{"rendered":"Dark Skin (Love the Skin you are in…)"},"content":{"rendered":"

Have you ever been told, \u201cyou are pretty for a dark-skinned girl\u2026\u201d?\u00a0 Well, I have and as a young girl this comment took me by surprise the first time I heard it (unfortunately, it wasn\u2019t the last) \u2026like, what does that mean?\u00a0 I wouldn\u2019t be pretty any other way? Are dark-skinned girls not pretty?\u00a0 I always had more male friends than female friends so, I then began to question other things\u2026is that why I\u2019m always the homegirl?\u00a0 Is it really because I\u2019m dark-skinned?\u00a0 <\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

I was something like a tom boy (prior to H.S.) so, I climbed trees, hopped gates, played with worms, scrapped my knees, etc.\u00a0 The boys that were interested\u2026I was almost like a \u201ckept secret\u201d \u2026praised me behind closed doors (lets keep in mind this was during middle school) but didn\u2019t outwardly show the same attention\u2026or at least I didn\u2019t notice.\u00a0 I remember this guy from Harlem told me he didn\u2019t date dark-skinned girls and he was darker than me!\u00a0 The nerve\u2026his attitude and his outlook on the beauty of others made him unattractive to me.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

I was in eighth grade the first time I got my nails done.\u00a0 I had a dance recital so, I also got my hair done, put on a skirt and felt beautiful.\u00a0 It\u2019s crazy how \u201cmaterials\u2019 can make us feel beautiful.\u00a0 It\u2019s also amazing how words can affect how we preceive ourselves.\u00a0 The words of others can affect how we feel about ourselves so, we must be careful with the things that we say to people because it can affect their lives in a bigger way than you could ever imagine.\u00a0 <\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

One summer after eighth grade this boy made me feel beautiful by his words\u2026and guess what?\u00a0 He wasn\u2019t afraid to tell people that he admired me\u2026he wasn\u2019t afraid to tell people that I was his girlfriend\u2026he wasn\u2019t afraid to tell people how beautiful my skin was\u2026how beautiful I was\u2026I gained a new type of confidence.\u00a0 I started to look myself in the mirror and claim my beauty.\u00a0 Not only because of the things he said (of course my family always told me that I was beautiful) but because I started to appreciate myself and my flaws.\u00a0 I still work on accepting my flaws as an adult, but I\u2019ve come along way, lol.\u00a0 That\u2019s another blog post\u2026another day, lol.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

I realized that I am beautiful inside and out\u2026I\u2019m smart, I am strong, I\u2019m ambitious, I am resilient, I\u2019m loyal, I\u2019m trustworthy, I\u2019m respectful (but watch it because I give respect until I feel disrespected and then you will get a dose of your own medicine) \u2026and at the end of the day, I am BEAUTIFUL.\u00a0 I am a self-proclaimed beautiful chocolate QUEEN.\u00a0 My skin doesn\u2019t define me, but my skin is amazing.\u00a0 \u201cI got that up north glow, body looking like cinnamon<\/span>\u2026\u201d (By Remy Ma) \u2026when I hear this song, I get hyped\u2026my skin is popping! (I\u2019m laughing because when my kids read this they will laugh because I said, popping, lol.)<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

As I matured, I began to realize the value in my skin\u2026sheesh, people pay to have darker skin.\u00a0 However, there is still an issue in some cases when it comes to dark beauty.\u00a0 People tend to praise the lighter skin tones and not shine light on the darker tones.\u00a0 All people are beautiful and it\u2019s important that we all find beauty in ourselves and not allow the opinions, suggestions, comments of others define who we are.\u00a0 We must get away from the mindset that there is a \u201cperfect\u201d skin tone.\u00a0 I teach my children the value in their skin, their hair, and everything that makes them unique, valued, loved and beautiful.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

As an adult, I was sent a man that would admire and adore my skin.\u00a0 I\u2019m happy to call him my husband (of 14 years now), by his examples and how I carry myself our little men love my beauty.\u00a0 I started this post after having a conversation about skin…and because it\u2019s still a topic today.\u00a0 This is just a little taste of my thoughts behind the subject, but I want to end this post by saying, be careful what you say to people\u2026be careful how you react to people because of their skin\u2026be mindful of the comments we make about beauty.\u00a0 We can give people a complex about something that they never knew to have a problem with\u2026something that they never thought to question.\u00a0 We have to teach our youth the value they have\u2026not to compare themselves to others, and to love one another regardless of their skin tone.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

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\u201c\u2026Brown skin, you know I love your brown skin
\nI can’t tell where yours begins, I can’t tell where mine ends
\nBrown skin, up against my brown skin
\nNeed some every now and then, oh hey<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

Skin so brown, lips so round
\nBaby how can I be down?
\nBeautiful mahogany, you make me feel like a queen
\nTell me what’s that thing you do that makes me want to get next to you, yeah\u2026\u201d (By India Arie)<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

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